3 Ways To Know He Fits You Right...

If it's not a wedding picture, it's a baby picture. Everyone around me seem to be getting married all of a sudden and it got me thinking...I need to take this 'relationship' thing serious cos I'm not getting any younger.

 

I've gone for a couple of blind dates, meet a couple of guys online, make friends easily, active in church *you know I might just be located there* wink* endeavor to smile and seem sweet as often as possible.

 

Not until I met this guy that seem to be 'THE ONE' considering some easily noticeable reasons but  my whole heart is not welcoming him totally. Then it hit me.

 

Girl, this is a life long commitment you are about to get into. Are you sure it's what you want? Don't make a mistake cos "YOU CAN'T MARRY JUST ANYBODY". Not every man is yours. "He should fit in the right places" according to  Michelle Hammond.

 

It is like going for a shopping, you see shoes you like but you end up buying the one that fits your foot right, that you can afford and probably the color you actually need to have. Same way, there are different guys out there and of course, you can't have them all but you must accept to marry the one that fit you perfectly *don't force it in cos it will hurt....no shoe pads either, cos you will soon get tired of managing it*. You should enjoy what you take home worthy of the time spent in the market.

 

3 WAYS TO KNOW HE FITS YOU RIGHT

 

1)  You must share a common 'F-A-I-T-H'. You just cannot neglect the spiritual aspect of a relationship. Marriage is not the end to every experiences you have had while growing up. It is not the end of the road in life. As a matter of fact, if you make a mistake in this aspect, you are about to start a life long struggle. You must be spiritually sensitive...You and Him...together...in unity. Else your home will break eventually. Oh God help you if it doesn't kill you.

 

2) You must move in the same 'D-I-R-E-C-T-I-O-N'. I recommend you read "Waiting and Dating" by Myles Munroe. He illustrated this in a way that it also relates to the spiritual aspect. When talking about direction, we are talking about purpose. Your life purpose is no where outside God. God made us and He made us for a purpose. If you have no relationship with God, you are most likely living outside purpose and you can never find fulfillment. Di-Vision = Di- Vorce according to my pastor. When you and your intended man have different vision then the marriage is likely to end in divorce cos 'no kingdom divided against itself shall stand'.

 

3) He must need your H-E-L-P. If God could realize that Adam needed help in the garden of Eden and the only one that can occupy that position is a woman, then your man must accept and embrace the help God provided for him, YOU. If he is self sufficient and assume there is nothing a woman can do that he cannot except child bearing. There is a problem. It is part of the purpose of a woman to help the man. he must be able to accept that you complete him and he needs you to be fulfilled in life.

 

If he doesn't fit, don't force it. Just leave it. Look ahead. The right ONE is waiting for you.

 

NB: This is also applicable to guys. I only wrote from my point of view as a lady.

 

Your comments and contributions are highly welcomed.

Have a lovely day.

 

Source: OptimisticOmoTee's Desk '2015