Did I Say That...???

Some years back, I went with my mum to see a family friend who came visiting from Lagos. The family friend lodged in her brother’s house. As we approached the house we heard noises from the compound. Obviously, there was a fight in the house. So we hurriedly entered and found out that it was the family friend’s brother and his wife that had misunderstanding. The wife was crying and my mum asked her to calm down and explain why she was upset and she said “I cannot remember the last time he said he loves me…"

So many marriages are breaking up today just because we don’t use that word ‘I love you’ often and many young bright destinies have been tampered with because of the erroneous use of the word ‘I love you’.

How and when should this word be used? This is a discussion for another day. But today, we will look at what we mean when we use that word, ‘I Love you’.

What we are simply saying is; I will…

… be Patient with the differences we share

… be Kind despite your invidious actions.

…not envy regardless of who is more successful

…not boast about achievements, background and all of that

…not be proud to say sorry

…not be rude by keeping that attitude to myself

…not be self seeking because 1+1=1

…not be easily angered no matter how annoying you can be

…not keep record of wrong… forgive and forget rule

…not delight in evil but rejoice with the truth

…protect you in the waging storm

…always trusts even if you don’t trust yourself

…always hope in a hopeless situation

…always persevere because surulere (Patience is virtue)

…never fail you

When you say the word ‘I love you’, you are saying all of the above.

Stay Blessed.

(Holy Bible, 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8.)