I Should Have…

Nobody seems to accept him.

My friends all have something to say about him that puts them off. My family members believe I deserve someone better. But I love him… we love each other so much a day does not go by without us seeing each other. We are never tired of each other. Despite the fact that we see every day, we still miss each other. He is my Oxygen…

It is so fresh in my memory how we met. It was love at first sight. He is a dream come true. He is my prince charming who rescued me from the dragon of loneliness. He has great charisma with swagger. He is every girl fantasy. I do not need to pray about him because he a born again Christian, an executive in my fellowship and shares word like Christ himself. He is spiritual and sociable.

Hmm… why does it seem so wrong now? Why am I so depressed and sad? What happened to the love and friendship we shared? What happened to the Christ like man I married?

I should have listened to the stupid reasons my friend gave for me not to marry him. Excuses about how he eats a larger portion of the food and meat when we eat together without considering me, how he gives me his used phone and get a new one for himself, how he is possessive and always wanting to know who and who are the contacts on my phone and the places I have been, how I had to be the one always apologizing when we have misunderstanding.

It all looked and felt like love to me. I felt my friends were just jealous because I have a man like him while they don’t. Now … I have no one to run to, no shoulder to cry on and nobody to tell me it will be ok.

I should have listened to my mum when she prayed about us and told me to be patient for the right man to come. I told her I am not getting any younger!! I will be 30 next year. Most of my friends are married and those that are not have a stable relationship and will soon wed. Besides, we have been dating for 8 years. I cannot just waste all those years… what if I can’t find someone else. I am working and I hardly have time to meet people.  He wants to marry me. Why should I turn him down? I have promised him that I will not let him down except he asks for it.

Now, I wish he never proposed. I wish I listened. I wish I saw it the way they all did. I wish… I wish… I wish…

I should have waited.

 (Story is a fiction coined from what is happening especially in marriages)

Waiting is inevitable.

We wait on a lot of things everyday from the filling station to cooking process.

It is quite shocking to know that we find it more difficult to wait on things that will affect our lives. We want it as soon as possible, we want it the way we want it, we ignore simple details and prefer fantasy to reality.

Why must we wait?

1.     We can afford to wait because no situation is permanent. The situation will change because change is constant. In II Kings 6:25-33, the king of Samaria was greatly upset because of the famine in the land and he asked Elisha the question “…why should I wait for the Lord any longer?” (II Kings 6:33). Elisha answered that by that time the following day, the situation would have changed.
2. God will surely act on our behalf. Isaiah 64:4(NIV) says, “Since ancient times no one has heard, no ear has perceived, no eye has seen any God besides you, who acts on behalf of those who wait for him.”

We only need to wait patiently for it. Romans 8:25 (NIV) says, “But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently.”

Patience is a virtue. Galatians 5: 22(NIV) “But the fruit of the spirit is…patience...”

Patience is a cloth designed by the Holy Spirit that we can decide to wear. It is contained in the wardrobe we got from God. Colossians 3:12 (NIV) “Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion …and patience.”

Patience assures us of the reality of our promise. Hebrew 6:12 (NIV) “We do not want you to become lazy, but to imitate those who through faith and patience inherit what has been promised.”

Let us wait now so we will not weep later.

Stay blessed.