BookClub- The Love Dare by Alex and Stephen Kendrick Day 13

Dear BookClub reader, welcome to day 13 of this book 'THE LOVE DARE'. The Love Dare is a non-fiction marriage-related book written by Alex and Stephen Kendrick. It is a 40-day Christian devotional designed to strengthen marriages. Click to view day 1, 2, 3 ,4 , 5 , 6, 7 ,  8 , 9 , 10 , 11 ,12
For this book reading, each day will contain three very important element;

First, a unique aspect of love will be discussed.

Second, you will be given a specific dare to do for your spouse.

Last, you will need a journal to log what you are learning and doing and how your spouse is responding by answering the 'question of the day'. These note will record your progress and should become priceless to you in the future.

The entire book will not be published but every chapter will be previewed and I strongly recommend that you get a hard copy for future references.

Ensure that you do not miss any part of this book reading. Enjoy!

DAY 13: Love fights fair

If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand.
—Mark 3:25

Like it or not, conflicts in marriage is inevitable. When you tied the knot as brides and groom, you joined not only your hopes and dreams but also your hurts, fears, imperfections, and emotional baggage. From the moment you unpacked from your honeymoon, you began the real process of unpacking one another, unpleasantly discovering how sinful and selfish each of you could be.

Every couple goes through it. It's part for the course. But not every couple survives it. So don't think that today's dare will drive all conflict from your marriage. Instead, this is about dealing with conflict in such a way that you come out healthier on the other side.

Both of you. Together.

A great marriage on Monday can start driving off the cliff on Tuesday if unbridled conflict takes over and neither of you has your foot on the brakes. But love steps in and change things. Married couples who learn to work through conflict tend to be closer, more trusting, more intimate, and enjoy a much deeper connection afterwards.

Basically there are two boundaries for dealing with conflict: "we" boundaries and "me" boundaries. "We" boundaries are rules you both agree on beforehand that apply during any fight and altercation. "Me" boundaries are rules you personally practice on your own.

Fighting fair means changing your weapons. Disagreeing with dignity. It should result in building a bridge instead of burning one down. Remember, love is not a fight, but it is always worth fighting for.

TODAY’S DARE

Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement. If your mate is not ready for this, then write out your own personal rules to “fight” by. Resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand.

QUESTION OF THE DAY

If your spouse participated with you, what was their response? What rules did you write for yourself?

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