How To Deal With The Past

Case study

A young lady got pregnant mistakenly for a friend of hers who was engaged to be married. They both were just friends until they got drunk at a mutual friend's party and did it.
She definitely could not afford to keep the baby because the guys fiancee is more or less a sister to her. So, she had an abortion.

She met a young man who proposed marriage to her. She loves him so much that she's afraid to lose him. But she's confused because she does not know if she should tell him about her past or not.

I shared the above scenerio online and it sparked an interesting conversation with Gbenga Tade. Read an extract from his response below.

I think keeping the info from the Man is always a wrong option. So its a question of when and how. Since it's something you can't put forward to every first timer that looks in your direction else the ladies gist will become FM news.

So ..... advise is .... learn how to know the guys values before telling him about it ..... and .... Tell him about it if his values aren't against it. Your private information in the hands of someone without value ..... will definitely travel .... and it will evolve as it travels. The wrong notion might eventually get to the right person.

But the idea that you might never find a guy that will accept it .... is a big lie. If You believe God loves you then Believe Your choice exists .... and He's also looking for You. Keep looking until you see your choice.

When God said in the beginning "Its not good for man to be alone, I will make him an helpmeet" God didn't go ahead to create Eve. No .... God went to create animals and brought them to Adam. It says "God brought them .... to see what He would call them". So He could have called any of them wife but he chose to call them different things.

Then God formed Eve and in the same manner as he has brought the animals, He brought Eve also and Adam chose Eve.

If we look at the dog which is actually called man's best friend and put in a situation in which Adam could supernaturally understand them.

Then I think the option of having chosen a near-Fit but not the best-fit existed. I believe God is still in the business of bringing "relationships" our way.

And we still have the responsibility of naming them
Good, Bad, Predatory, Chicken, Dog, Cow Bla bla bla Dinosaur.

And i believe we might need to pass through those phases to prepare us for the ideal. But we must also know that the ideal is coming and we should not settle for less except we don't really believe in the love of God.