The only person that exists with the ability to ‘Love at
first sight’ is God because He loved us while we were yet sinners Romans 5:8.
Man does not have that ability because man always needs to have a reason to love.
Majority love God because He loved us first. Man naturally does not have the
capacity to love selflessly except he lives through Christ.
You can be attracted to someone. Yes. But love is a
conscious effort. It is a ‘doing’ word. It is a verb and not an adjective to
qualify how you feel about someone. Love is a Choice. We love and hate by our
perception about a thing or a person and not by our feelings. Our feelings are
majorly subject to what we see and hear.
The bitter truth is feelings… emotions fade so quickly. So,
it is imperative that we understand and wake up from our dream to the reality
of ‘Love at first Sight’.
The Myth and the
Truth
(1) The myth is that Love is a feeling. The goose pimples you have when you
see him, the buckled knee when he greets you, the skipped heartbeat when he
speaks to you, the gasp for air when he smiles etc. does not mean love because
if you keep gasping for air whenever he smiles and you eventually marry each
other, you will die young. Feelings fade away sooner than you think but Love doesn’t
1 Cor. 13:13.
The truth is that Love is a choice. You consciously birth love, nurture it to maturity. God’s love to
us was a conscious effort. He was aware of it and acted it out. He decided that
even if we do not love Him, He will continue to love us and He is selfless
about it. Every characteristic of love in 1 Cor. 13 are conscious efforts just
as our salvation is a conscious work Philippians 2:12.
(2) The myth is that Love makes you stupid. Feelings (not love) make you act
stupid and foolish for the one you claim to love. You forget your life purpose
and waste your destiny when you let your feelings rule you. You find it hard to
say NO just to please him/her to make yourself relevant at your detriment.
“Love definitely does not look painful or uncomfortable”- Michelle Hammond. Come off it.
The truth is that Love brings the best out of you and not the
worse. Love is wisdom and not
foolishness. Love leads you to God and not to destruction. Love is not blind.
It sees very clearly.
(3) The myth is that you live happily ever after. Forget those Nollywood, Hollywood,
Bollywood crap because most of this movies end at the wedding and not the
marriage. Movies are fantasies. They are not reality. How many of these movies
even promote morality? They teach us premarital sex as an expression of love,
they teach us drinking and smoking and bullying as the ‘cool’ way to live. The
crazy fashion in the world today is promoted in movies and the bitter truth is
that those clothes are just ‘costumes’. Wake up from your slumber.
The truth is that Love is reality. Reality is God. No God. No Happily ever after the wedding.
Simple, bitter but true.
(4) The myth is that Love is conditional. I am naturally
attracted to tall, dark, handsome, neat, intelligent, and music inclined guys.
It is a wish list. Did you notice that something is missing? Love is missing in
the wish list. That is what happens most times. We meet this person that just
fit perfectly into what we want and we conclude, ‘I am in love’.
The truth is that Love is without reasons. So you have no reason to walk out of
love. You have no reason to give up on love. God has no reason for loving us and
being so conscious of man Hebrew 2:6. He loves us unconditionally.
Conclusion
It’s possible to have a crush on someone. It feels so real.
Give yourself about three months at most; you will definitely come out of it. Just
as the image depicts, “Love at first sight” will get you burnt beyond
recognition. I agree with what a friend
said, “Love at first sight isn’t just real. Using the word Love in this context
is an insult to God because God is Love”-Morayo
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