“You know that tingly feeling you get when you like someone, that’s common sense leaving your body”.
When I saw this statement as a ‘DP’ (Display Picture) on one of my BBM Contacts, I laughed and almost cracked my ribs because I cannot but imagine the number of times common sense has crept out of my body.
Thanks to M&B, Hollywood, Nollywood, Bollywood and all the ‘woods’ you can think about, that have successfully made common sense no longer common in this generation. We have seen too much of Cinderella, Pretty Woman, Maid in Manhattan, Wedding Planner etc such that we believe in ‘Love at First Sight’, ‘Prince Charming’ and ‘Knight in Black Shining Armor’ that will rescue us from the Dragon of loneliness and we will live happily ever after. What a Dream.
So many people enter into relationships believing that it will also end exactly the way we see it in the movies. This is why so many people are not happy in their relationships.
Feelings are temporary. That beautiful gown you felt you won’t be able to sleep if you do not have it, is now what you use as underlay in your wardrobe to protect other cloths. Why is it that you are not feeling the way you felt last year about that gown? Let me tell you. It is because feelings don’t last.
Feelings are deceitful. A lady and a guy met online and they fell in love with each other. The first time they are to see each other; the lady was already seated at the restaurant when the guy walked it. After chatting for a while, the lady needed to relieve herself. As she walked to the loo, he realized that she has a bad leg and was limping, his love for her faded instantly. Why? Because his feelings were attached to what he could see? Seeing what he could not see, changed his whole perception of his Love for her. Is your love a result of money, beauty, career, family? It is worth knowing.
Feelings are insatiable. In 1 Samuel 13, Amnon loved Tamar to the point of illness. He felt incomplete. He wanted to have her at all cost. He decided to set her up to satisfy his feelings for her. At the end, he succeeded and afterwards he hated her more than he loved her. If feelings were satisfying, he would have loved her more after having his way with her.
Love is not a feeling rather a conscious action. This is the reason why we were admonished in Galatians 5:2 to ‘live a life of Love’, it simply means that it is not what you do when you feel like it rather it is what you do because you chose to. Christ chose to love us while we were yet sinners such that he died for us. He could have changed his mind while praying on Mount of Olives (Luke 22:42) but he chose the Will of God over his own will.
Love is a choice. Considering the generations before us when our mothers were married to their husbands by their parents; they had no time to feel; they had to choose to love their husbands. Yet, the rate of divorce is so low compared to now that we marry base on our feelings alone. I am not saying that you should not be compassionate about your intended spouse. I am just saying that feelings will not last the test of time. It is your choice that will make the relationship work. You have to decide now what you really want for yourself.
In conclusion, guard your heart with all diligence so you won’t lose the common sense left in your body.
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