My Child. My Call. My Ministry

My lesbian partner is threatening to expose me

A female LIB reader shared this story to seek peoples opinion on what she should do...

I would like to share my problem and hopefully get some good advice on this predicament I have found myself. I am 24 and grew up in a Christian home where going to church was the only recreational activity allowed in my house. My parents are pastors and they pastor a large pentecostal church in lagos. 

Growing up in my house felt like a military camp, friends from school weren't allowed over and the only kids I got to associate with were pastors kids like myself and all we were allowed to discuss was the bible because watching TV wasn't even allowed except its a gospel program.

So naturally not having friends turned me into a quiet girl and I was the obedient and perfect girl to everyone and most parents wished they had me, but what all didn't know was that behind the quiet charming girl I was a totally different person. Years of being monitored and not being allowed to interact socially had messed up my sanity and sexuality, because since I was allowed to play with only girls I had learnt to develop emotional feelings for only girls.

Fast track to 4months ago, I  have always kept my sexuality in check because I'm a pastors kid from an influential home and I couldn't just act out even if i wanted to. So one evening I was visiting a friend after work hours and I got introduced to this other friend of hers, and from the minute I set my eyes on her I knew I needed to have her and nature smiled on me and somehow we became an item.

She was everything I wanted and she fulfilled all my guilty pleasures and she was my first,  thou I kept my last name and family background from her. Two weeks ago she calls me up and says that I haven't been treating her right that I never told her I was from a super rich home and since I had a name to protect that she needs 5million naira for Christmas shopping.

At first I thought she was crazy but now she's threatening to tell my folks and the entire church. My parents may have gotten it wrong in the child training section but they are good people and it would ruin their reputation if the church finds out.

So do I tell them the truth  about my sexuality and impending disaster or do I pay her the N5m or do I just take the long rope and walk away from home and never return. Because either way I can't change my sexuality and I have 2weeks to go before all hell breaks loose.

When I read this story, I really felt for the young lady because she was just born into a Christian home but not brought up in the way of the Lord. 

Parents!!! Pastors!!! What is the essence of bringing people you do not know to Christ and leaving your children behind. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God's church?) 1 Timothy 3:5 NIV. Your family is your first Call. Your children and your spouse are your ministry. It is not by the size of your congregation but rather it is about the Life of God in your home. You should practice what you teach.

It is not good parenting, to neglect your child. A parent should be a Hero. A mentor. A Role Model. If we all do this, life will be easier. Serving God will be easier. There are lot of kids out there experiencing even worse than this. Some are living a life devoid of purpose just because their parents don't know the purpose of parenting.

Good parenting is not by restricting the child from socializing. Good parenting is not by scolding and flogging the child at every slight opportunity you have. Good parenting is not about being strict. Good parenting is not about wearing a hard face. Good parenting is not about the money you make just to lavish on the child. Good parenting requires the wisdom of God and the gift of discernment. It is about having good fellowship with the child at every opportunity you have or can create. 

If this young lady likes it or not, the truth will definitely come to light someday and her parents will still be put to shame. They might successfully hide it from people but they can never hide it from God. The best thing she needs to do is to give her life to Christ. Homosexuals have no part in the kingdom of God. 

This is a challenge to jolt us as Christians, provided you are a parent or not yet one, to cherish and love our children. To care for them. To bring them up in the way of the Lord. 

The easiest person to preach Christ to is our immediate family because we have more influence over them than people we do not know or our church members. I pray for God's help for every parent.

My Child. My Call. My Ministry.